January 3, 2013

Mom-fidence

I had a different post in mind for today, but one check up at the pediatrician's office changed everything.

While at the pediatrician's office for Leah's 6 month well-baby visit, I lost my mom-fidence.  What is mom-fidence you ask?  It's the confidence moms have in following their motherly instincts to raise their babies.
I don't want to rehash the whole appointment.  There are controversial issues involved, and I know everyone has an opinion.  I just need to let things sink in for a while, but I will say that topics like overweight baby and breastfeeding less were thrown out there.  After which, I didn't even dare to admit that we are still co-sleeping.  

After that appointment my mom-fidence is gone because I am starting to feel like I don't know what I am doing, and it seems like I cannot do anything right.

So while I sit here wallowing in self pity feeling like I am not succeeding at my most important job of mother, I am trying to remind myself that I've raised two boys pretty well (so far).  We haven't always done it by the book, but what we have done has worked.  I need to keep telling myself that what works for us may not be the way most people do it.  I'm not aiming to please others but rather aiming to have happy, healthy children.  And right now my three little ones are just that.  So maybe I am failing at following all the rules, but we seem to be doing just fine doing it our own way.

Have you ever lost your mom-fidence?  How did you get it back?

 

9 comments:

Julie, Wife of a Soldier said...

I have and like you I just have to remind myself that I have done it two other times and it will be okay.

Amber said...

Well that sounds a bit ridiculous, both of my girls were exclusively breast fed and very chunky babies. No one ever had anything but good things to say about it. As they got older and started moving around the weight evened out.

Honestly, I would look into another provider if that is the kind of BS this one is trying to feed you.

Sandy Sandmeyer said...

My son was exclusively breastfed and he was always at or over the 100% for his age. My feeling is that if the pediatrician makes you feel inferior, especially since this isn't your first rodeo, then I would find a new pediatrician. You know you are a great mother. Don't let anyone else tell you differently.

Jenn said...

Wow, what a jerk doctor. Molly went completely off the charts for weight at her 6 month visit and the doctor just said, "We'll be monitoring her overall lack of nutrition closely. If her thighs begin to fit into pants, bring her back." ;) (fyi Molly weighs almost as much as her 2yo brother.)

She is healthy and you trust your instincts, mama. :)

Monica said...

Find a new pediatrician. Immediately. To tell you a 6 month old is overweight is 100% ridiculous - ESPECIALLY if she's breastfed. If she was 2, okay, fine, there MIGHT be an issue, but she's an infant. My little guy was 3 ounces over his birth weight at 2 months old. That was my parenting being off and me not realizing that he was lazy and didn't want to nurse enough to fill him up, but even so, his pediatrician and nurses were nothing but supportive of me and never ever said anything to make me feel inferior. Seriously, find a new pediatrician.

The Fischer Family said...

Don't let this pedatrician bully you! I hate how condescending some drs can be!! It is incredibly hard for a baby to be overweight!! And I'll admit we were never co-sleepers until Eli. He just slept better with us. He sleeps in his own room now, but I know how scary it feels that someone might find out. Keep up the good work mama! You're doing great!!

Jamie said...

You're doing great. Just hang in there. Some days are harder than others but you already know that!

Poekitten said...

I read this a few days ago and couldn't get it out of my mind so I had to come back and comment! Please don't let the pediatrician make you feel bad! Leah is FINE! She's breastfed and you're doing a great job! If she's hungry, feed her! Once she starts moving around it will most likely all melt away! My almost 6 month old munchkin has been in the 90% for weight and no one is concerned.

Also, we're still co-sleeping:) I enjoy it so much! I'm just no ready to move her yet. Soon, but not yet!

PalouseMom said...

I'm in support of all the other comments left here... you're pediatrician is WAY off base unless he/she has documented that Leah has a thyroid issue that makes her prone to obesity... my sister-in-laws youngest was over 20lbs at her 6 month checkup (and didn't end up gaining any more weight for over a year) ... but she was perfectly healthy.

Trust yourself! Hugs and prayers!

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